Mary King's eNews - Creating Wealth
March 2008
Hello,
Recently a woman contacted me for help with her finances. Though earning a good wage, a series of family challenges has left her carrying a large debt. She feels both burdened and restricted under such a load.
Life brings us all many challenges. It's how we handle them that determines the outcomes and 'who we become' in the process. If, in the growing-up process, we are rewarded for our capabilities and achievements we are likely to get stronger in that area of our personality and character. This achieving way of operating may dominate our character to the point that we deny some other part of ourselves.
Disowning or denying a part of ourselves can become very costly, both personally and financially. That denied or disowned part will eventually find expression somehow. And that 'somehow' is often expensive. Nature abhors a vacuum. When we disown a part of ourselves, the energy of that part has to go somewhere. Somebody in our lives will carry it.
At one time in my life I was the proprietor of a pharmacy. I was busy being 'the powerful businesswoman' and disowned the Needy Child in me (yes we all have one in there somewhere). Frankly, others' neediness made me uncomfortable. And one day I noticed how needy my husband had become. He lost his high-paying job. He became worried and depressed. He decided to take advantage of his paid-up health benefits and have surgery. From the surgery he got an infection. And his neediness increased.
Just like the woman who came to me for help, I felt overwhelmed and exhausted at the heavy load I was now carrying on my own.
From this painful time I eventually learned that I shared responsibility for my husband's distress (because I had disowned my Needy Child). Subsequently this led me to accept and honor my own neediness.
The Needy Child is a part of each of us. This inner child is poor, helpless, fragile and vulnerable. This inner child has been with us since babyhood (and never grows up). It is a part of us that dreams of that knight in shining armour who can rescue us and carry us away to a life of luxury and love. Dream on!
I suggest getting into a bath and spending time with your Needy Child. Let her range over all the reminders of being poor, helpless, fragile and vulnerable. She might cry, whine, complain, rage or worry. Allow yourself to feel the emotions she is feeling. Really honour her. When I honoured my Needy Child I no longer drew in others to carry my neediness. When you honour your disowned parts, that energy - in yourself or others - will no longer cause you upset. You don't have to become needy, you just have to recognise and accept you have that particular energy in you and acknowledge and respect it. The quality of your relationships will be your reward.
These ideas were included in my recommendations to the woman who took on the family burdens. I encouraged her to recognise her responsibility in her relationship and strive for balance.
Creating wealth is much more than just making money as you can see from this example. You'll learn more than you may realise in the Rich is Better workshops.
The next Rich is Better workshops will be held in Melbourne in May. You can see a flyer for the two-day Rich is Better - Wealth for Women Workshop on 10th & 11th May click here or to see a flyer for Rich is Better - Real Estate Workshop on 17th May click here.
Best wishes for your financial freedom,
Mary King
Rich is Better - Wealth for Women
Phone 03 9882 1886
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